I had a similar decision handed to me not too long ago by a CA judge. Baby momma was ordered to take son to therapy to find out why he didnt want to visit dad anymore. She stalled and got yelled at by the judge for not following orders. After 1yr in court and only 3-4 sessions during that time the judge decides that she will take my sons wishes into account. (He is only 14 at the time). Fought it as long as I could then BAM! Judge says my son doesn't have to visit me if he doesn't want to.
In other words. Screw your paternal rights you ain seeing your son anymore.
IMO my son was a victim of Parental Alienation. Mom makes no effort to keep me in the loop on his life. No phone calls. No pictures. No letters. Nothing. Couldn't even get her to have him return my calls. Haven't heard from or seen my son in over a year.
I lost all hope in the family law system. I understand where you are coming from. Pro per suck when the other party lawyers up. Even if you do everything right and by the book you get F'd.
The Family Kort Mafia is nothing more than a money EXTRACTION scheme designed to remove as much money as possible from the participants and ALWAYS siding with the Ovarian, regardless of her lies, false reporting, manipulation of the system or utter moral bankruptcy.
My ex-wife is an evil c***. Plain and simple. After 2 OOPs (quashed), a failed attempt at an Amber Alert, 3 CPS investigations (Unsubstantiated) and a half dozen Motions alleging harassment and stalking, the Court's only orders are for MORE money doled out to MORE cronies of the Courts! It's fkn madness!
The boy is 16 and has said flatly, he's done with the whole show.
And make no mistake, I will help him. His Freedom is my Freedom.